The way every child perceives and evaluates themselves depends largely on how they are perceived and evaluated by their parents — what feedback they have received from them about their own worth.  And the messages we as parents pass on to our children don't form on their own within us. They come from our parents, and before that they were passed on to them by their parents — our grandparents.

In a child's earliest years — and with the rich family inheritance of messages and concepts — every parent reflects back to the child their fundamental needs for love and for knowledge. Those needs later turn into the child's capacities. Through them, the parents shape the child's images of the real Self and the ideal Self. 

The founder of the humanistic paradigm in psychology, Carl Rogers (1902–1987), found that if there is a mismatch between the two images (the real Self and the ideal Self), it sets the stage for neurosis. And that means not being in harmony with yourself.

What does the phrase "the concepts from our childhood" mean?

Prof. Nossrat Peseschkian, MD, founder of the International School of Positive Psychotherapy, calls concepts the messages, attitudes, and beliefs that we unconsciously carry from our childhood and adolescence into parenthood. What are the concepts we pass on to our children every day, without realizing it? Do they help us, or hinder us more? Are they flexible, or hard as stone, with our children running into them as into a wall? Which concepts are worth keeping, and which ones — letting go of?

Our conflicts with others, our recurring problems, our psychosomatic illnesses can also be examined through the lens of two extremely important categories that accompany human development — the capacities for love and for knowledge, which Prof. Peseschkian calls primary and secondary. How are they ordered, and are they in balance in our lives? Are we managing to balance ourselves while we try to juggle our relationships with our partner and our children?

We'll answer these and other important questions about conscious parenting at our next gathering at the Parents' School of the "Montessori Educational Center" Association. In a cozy setting and the supportive company of other parents, together with the speaker Katerina Chonova, you'll explore yourself and your resources in the form of capacities and concepts laid down in us.

What did the great Carl Gustav Jung say? "Until we make the unconscious conscious, it will direct our life and we will call it fate."

Join us on Saturday, March 16, from 11 AM to 1 PM in the cozy hall of the Private Kindergarten "Montessori" in the Ovcha Kupel neighborhood of Sofia, at 3 Nov Vek St.

The topic is suitable for parents of children of preschool and school age. Spaces are limited.

Price: 50 BGN per session, including materials and the coffee break. Payment on site or by bank transfer to the account of the "Montessori" Educational Center Association. IBAN BG83BPBI79401090362401

📞 Sign up by phone: 0889 595 505, or email: montessori-ovchakupel@abv.bg

About the speaker:

📚Katerina Chonova holds a Master's in school psychology and a postgraduate qualification in educational psychology from Sofia University "St. Kliment Ohridski." She is a psychotherapist under master-level supervision with the Bulgarian Society for Positive Psychotherapy and the World Association for Positive and Transcultural Psychotherapy.

She is certified after trainings in: "Child Play Psychotherapy" with the Institute of Positive Psychotherapy; "Autism: trends in research and treatment"; "Inclusive education in school practice"; "Psychodiagnostics and counseling for children and adults with organic, functional, and psychiatric conditions"; the National Programme for Universal Prevention of Substance Use for grades 5–7 "Code Name: Life"; "School Readiness Test" and others. Certified administrator of the Developmental Profile-3 (DP-3) screening test for children ages 0 to 13. She is a member of the Bulgarian Society of Psychologists (BG-RP 24480). She works as a school psychologist at a private elementary school in Sofia and as a counseling psychologist in private practice. Mother of two.

https://mediapsihologia.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/16_03_UCHILISHTE-1.mp4